Verbal Abuse? I Really Need Help and Advice…?

Question by Anna 🙂: Verbal abuse? I really need help and advice…?
Would you consider this verbal abuse (from my father):

Being called names like:
-B*tch
-F*ckwad
-Retard
-Mental Midget
-little piece of sh*t

And being told things like:
-you lie you cheat you steal
-all you do is lie
-f*ck you
-i don’t give a flying f*ck
-don’t bug me (constantly says this)
-it’s my house, i own this house, etc

and threatened by things like:
-i’ll hit you so hard you’ll remember it for the rest of your life
-so help me god…
-i swear to god i will hit you
-i’ll drag you out of that room

is that verbal abuse?
what do i do about it?
i’m 15, my parents have been married a while, and i don’t think they’ll get divorced.

i feel like i’m just making a mountain out of molehill, so to speak.
i mean, there isn’t anything you can do about it. He hasn’t hit me since i was little, when he used to spank me really hard. Now he only threatens to. if he were to hit me, i’d know that he did something wrong, and my feelings would be ‘justified’. Is it weird that i wish he would hit me?

i dont know what to do.
i’ve dealt with eating issues literally since i was six years old, and i’ve cut and done all that stuff. I’ve started to wonder, is this why? but again, i feel like i’m just seeking pity where i don’t deserve it. This new girl at my school has gone through so much, her mom was a drug addict, and i feel like i have NO problems next to her.

What am i supposed to do?
is this verbal abuse?

I’m afraid that I’ll hurt him if I tell someone. I mean, he isn’t always like this, his temper flares really fast but he also can be nice (he’s never said “I love you” though) and I love him. And it’s usually my fault because I never do what he asks and I’m really unresponsible…

What would happen if I told someone? Do I need a “diary of incidents” to do anything about it?

Note** I’m really sorry about posting this again, I just posted it 3 hours ago, but I added a little bit that I really wanted addressed (What would happen if I told someone) and I didn’t think anyone would see my question 6 pages back. sorryyy =/

Best answer:

Answer by Goldenredz
Yes this is emotional abuse. It is not okay. Depending on your age, if you called CPS (Child protective Services) they will come and do an investigation. But, just make sure this is all true and your not just trying to get back at your father. Because what will happen, is if CPS sees any of this, they can remove you from the home immediately, and unless you have other family to stay with, you’ll be sent to stay with a foster family. As for what happens with your father? I’m not sure. You’d have to ask CPS when you called them. I suppose they could put him in jail and there would be a court hearing, trial date ect. But again, I’m not totally certain what would happen. I would still tell someone, verbal abuse at any age is never okay. I would be willing to be that it is even illegal. If you need someone to talk to hun, you can message me at [email protected]. I’m 30 years old now but growing up I heard the same things from my father when I was a kid. And back then, there was nothing I could do about it. Hang in there.

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